Anger is not a parenting mistake – it's a developmental signal.
In the wave
- Breathe deeply and feel yourself – your calm is the bridge.
- Move to safety: sharp corners, stairs, the road.
- Speak little, but stay present: "I'm here. You are safe."
When the wave subsides
- Offer comfort, without pushing.
- Give words to the feeling ("You were so angry because…").
- A solution or making amends can come later.
Be gentle with yourself
- If you're close to exploding yourself: 30 seconds at the door, cold water, breath.
- If you often lose control yourself: a counselling service (e.g. your local parenting counselling) helps free of charge.
You don't have to radiate perfect calm – just keep the connection.