Becoming a mum is a deep change – not just logistics, but identity.
Small anchors
- An activity that has nothing to do with care work (reading, music, a favourite mug).
- Nurturing a friendship that knows you even without baby talk.
- Movement that feels like you – not like "getting your old belly back".
With words
- Write or send voice messages to yourself: "Today was…"
- Say out loud to your partner or a confidante: "I miss parts of me."
- Sentences like these aren't a criticism of your child – they're self-care.
When the heaviness stays
- Counselling services, mum groups or psychotherapy can accompany this transition well.
- On very dark days: in Germany, TelefonSeelsorge (0800 111 0 111); elsewhere, look for a local helpline.
You're not "less you" – you're in transition. That's allowed to take time.